Mom died Tuesday
Mar. 2nd, 2018 07:25 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
franklanguageMy sister called me—uncharacteristically—on Wednesday and left a message on my machine to call her, so I knew something was up. Mom had died, probably in her sleep, on Tuesday. She had had multiple health problems including dementia, incontinence, pulmonary fibrosis—which had begun in her 50s—and osteoporosis.
She had lived with my brother and his wife in rural Connecticut for several years; they had built a wing onto their house to accommodate her, which was nothing short of awesome; she never had to be in a nursing home. Since—I'm told—my brother was run ragged as a caregiver for Mom at the end in addition to his full-time job, I can only imagine both he and his wife are feeling relief tinged with guilt right now.
There isn't going to be a funeral; perhaps there will be a memorial at some later date, and my sister is sending me papers to sign so that my mother's ashes can be buried next to my father in the family plot in Connecticut.
She had lived with my brother and his wife in rural Connecticut for several years; they had built a wing onto their house to accommodate her, which was nothing short of awesome; she never had to be in a nursing home. Since—I'm told—my brother was run ragged as a caregiver for Mom at the end in addition to his full-time job, I can only imagine both he and his wife are feeling relief tinged with guilt right now.
There isn't going to be a funeral; perhaps there will be a memorial at some later date, and my sister is sending me papers to sign so that my mother's ashes can be buried next to my father in the family plot in Connecticut.
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Date: 2018-03-02 06:54 pm (UTC)Will you be able to get to the memorial? What kinds of papers have to be signed?
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Date: 2018-03-02 07:02 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2018-03-03 12:37 am (UTC)I bought her a little stuffed cardinal bird—from the Audobon Birds of America collection—that chirps when you press its back, but I never got to visit her in time, so now I have two.
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Date: 2018-03-03 12:49 am (UTC)I am too, mainly that I wasn't able to get to see her before the end; thing is, my sister had been telling me after a certain point it really didn't matter because she couldn't remember things from one minute to the next.
Will you be able to get to the memorial? What kinds of papers have to be signed?
The memorial, I hope, will be timed better to accommodate more relatives and friends. Also, it won't depend on being there for something as perishable as a body.
I have to sign away my rights to be buried in the family plot—gladly!—so my mom can have her ashes buried next to my dad in Connecticut. These papers can be e-mailed and I'll mail the signed copy back.
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Date: 2018-03-03 05:32 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2018-03-03 06:47 pm (UTC)*hugs hugs hugs*
I am so sorry for your loss.